Make your own assumptions…

Recently a blog was brought to my attention which I will gladly share with you in this post.

Her original post:

There is one thing in life that I cannot abide and that is someone to attempt to tarnish my reputation within my work for Second Life organizations.

I will post the ENTIRE transcript here, for you the reader, to make your own assumptions. Along with my simple thoughts on the matter.

[2017/08/28 16:22] Mr Sтäväros Ğrăçємσûηт (Stavaros): You got time for your headshot now?
[2017/08/28 16:22] Dᴇɪᴀɴɪʀᴀ Asʜʙᴏᴜʀɴᴇ (Tiviyah): (busy response): I may be on an extended afk, taking care of my RL mother for the evening. If I can, I will poke my head back in as much as I can from my phone, but if it’s incredibly important, please NC me. ❤ Deia
[11:30] Second Life: Incoming message from Tiviyah Resident
[11:30] Autoresponse sent: Sorry I missed you, but I may be busy:
1. Blogging or doing Photography
2. Modeling or Writing
3. Simply busy, as I’m simply Stavaros.
4. I’ll get back to you as soon as I can.
Thank you very much for your patience,
Stavaros Gracemount
[11:31] Dᴇɪᴀɴɪʀᴀ Asʜʙᴏᴜʀɴᴇ (Tiviyah): Messaging 30 minutes early.
[11:31] Mr Sтäväros Ğrăçємσûηт (Stavaros): Actually I’m showing you are and hour and half late.
[11:31] Dᴇɪᴀɴɪʀᴀ Asʜʙᴏᴜʀɴᴇ (Tiviyah): Hello Deinaira (Tivi)

Your appt with Stavaros is confirmed for 09/03/17 at 12:00 pm SLT. Please IM Stavaros 30 minutes before your appointment. Please no full brite hair, jewelry etc.

Aealla Illyar
[11:31] Dᴇɪᴀɴɪʀᴀ Asʜʙᴏᴜʀɴᴇ (Tiviyah): 12pm SLT
[11:32] Mr Sтäväros Ğrăçємσûηт (Stavaros):
[11:32] Dᴇɪᴀɴɪʀᴀ Asʜʙᴏᴜʀɴᴇ (Tiviyah): Gyazo is blank. (I do believe she posted that the entire thing was not showing said elements so here is the whole of it)
[11:32] Dᴇɪᴀɴɪʀᴀ Asʜʙᴏᴜʀɴᴇ (Tiviyah): 12noon SLT is on the card I was given, and it was the time Aealla and I had agreed on.
[11:33] Mr Sтäväros Ğrăçємσûηт (Stavaros): Well let’s see if you are ready.
[11:33] Mr Sтäväros Ğrăçємσûηт (Stavaros) smiles
[11:33] Second Life: Teleport offer sent to Dᴇɪᴀɴɪʀᴀ Asʜʙᴏᴜʀɴᴇ (Tiviyah)
[11:33] Dᴇɪᴀɴɪʀᴀ Asʜʙᴏᴜʀɴᴇ (Tiviyah): I had just recently crashed and everything reverted back to whatever I was wearing last night, so I’m putting myself back together, since my appointment isn’t for 30 minutes. 🙂
[11:33] Mr Sтäväros Ğrăçємσûηт (Stavaros): Again you are an hour and half late, if you need to reschedule that is fine.
[11:34] Dᴇɪᴀɴɪʀᴀ Asʜʙᴏᴜʀɴᴇ (Tiviyah):
[11:34] Mr Sтäväros Ğrăçємσûηт (Stavaros): SL can be a wonderful or an unforgiving enemy.
[11:34] Dᴇɪᴀɴɪʀᴀ Asʜʙᴏᴜʀɴᴇ (Tiviyah): I am exactly when I’m supposed to be, when it was scheduled.
[11:35] Dᴇɪᴀɴɪʀᴀ Asʜʙᴏᴜʀɴᴇ (Tiviyah): If there was a miscommunication between you and Aealla, or if it was scheduled incorrectly *after* that conversation, then that is not something that is my fault. My appointment was today at noon SLT.
[11:39] Mr Sтäväros Ğrăçємσûηт (Stavaros): I see where the breakdown in communication was, it was between you and Aealla.
[11:41] Mr Sтäväros Ğrăçємσûηт (Stavaros): I apologize for her misunderstanding.
[11:41] Dᴇɪᴀɴɪʀᴀ Asʜʙᴏᴜʀɴᴇ (Tiviyah): I asked if noon SLT worked. She said yes, she would schedule it. I said great. She sent me a confirmation for noon SLT. That’s not a breakdown on my end.
[11:43] Mr Sтäväros Ğrăçємσûηт (Stavaros): Again, I apologize for her misunderstanding.
[11:44] Dᴇɪᴀɴɪʀᴀ Asʜʙᴏᴜʀɴᴇ (Tiviyah): Your communication style is… interesting. First you attack me for being “an hour and a half late”… and when I show you what my appointment was, rather than looking into the scheduling issues, you assume I’m lying and continue to be rude with me. And only upon your further looking into it when you discover that I am not, in fact, late, do you backtrack and apologize and actually become polite.
[11:44] Dᴇɪᴀɴɪʀᴀ Asʜʙᴏᴜʀɴᴇ (Tiviyah): I’m just confused why you automatically assumed I was lying and wrong when everything I showed you said noon SLT.
[11:45] Dᴇɪᴀɴɪʀᴀ Asʜʙᴏᴜʀɴᴇ (Tiviyah): If you’re ready, I’m now ready 15 minutes early, if you need to get it done so you can leave. 🙂
[11:46] Mr Sтäväros Ğrăçємσûηт (Stavaros): No need to be confused. No need to continue with this conversation either. I hope that you are ready and we can get this done in a timely manner. You are obviously taking logical statements and making this much more than it needs to be so I will only discuss the photo with you.
[11:49] Mr Sтäväros Ğrăçємσûηт (Stavaros): When you are TPed please stand on the blue stand that is in front of the white cove. I’ll adjust you accordingly and should be done in a jiffy.
[11:49] Second Life: Teleport offer sent to Dᴇɪᴀɴɪʀᴀ Asʜʙᴏᴜʀɴᴇ (Tiviyah)
[11:51] Mr Sтäväros Ğrăçємσûηт (Stavaros): Ok I can only see a bit of the the necklace if you will please remove that.
[11:53] Mr Sтäväros Ğrăçємσûηт (Stavaros): That’s all folks. We are done. Have a lovely day Tiviyah.

The only other two things I have to say on the matter is this, am I short with my messages? Yes, because I blog when I’m not in a shoot with someone. Also, I try to be concise to not waste their time or mine.

Second, the reason I posed the question that I did during the interview that I did, is in fact because after this exchange she refused to reset the shoot with me. I do not care about the exchange, nor that she chose to post it, but let’s see the whole of the exchange and then people can make their own assumptions.

Truth is everyone’s perception of it and it’s all biased by one’s own experiences. I personally am in Second Life to enjoy myself, as most of us are. We should all be doing that.

I was warned about her before I ever met her. I chose my words carefully based upon her response to me and not to any preconceived notions based on other’s experiences. I was hopeful that it would be a positive experience, based upon the experience that my assistant had with her. I was wrong to think that it would go well.

Do not assume someone is calling you a liar, when you are only stating the facts as you see them. Did I make a mistake in shooting her for the wrong event, yes. That is my mistake. That is the only thing I will apologize for.

I, in no way made this personal, but I will in this way show those that care to know, the whole of it and not just parts that make another person look bad. Am I mad at you? Not at all. I would have to care about you to be that invested.

The only thing I am invested in is my clients and doing my job well. Doing it in a professional and efficient manner. Anyone that has dealt with me knows, I will own up to my mistakes. In this exchange there was only one, that I did not end the shenanigans sooner.

Next time you try to make assumptions about a person, stop and think. Do you have negative experiences with people on a regular basis? If so there is only one common denominator, you.

Thank you all for your time and I apologize to those that think that this shouldn’t have even needed to be addressed. To the Miss CoC Organization, I am sorry that one bad exchange has darkened your door.

Stavaros Gracemount



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